At one point or another, people in relationships fight. Think about it. You’ve probably fought with your parents, a sibling, and a friend at one time or another. Romantic relationships are no different. Sometimes fights happen. If you’re frequently fighting and seem unable to stop, it might be a good idea to learn if you need to see a couple’s counselor.
However, if you’ve done some inner searching, or taken the quiz to see if your relationship may be toxic, determining whether the occasional fight is just that, an argument, take a deep breath, and soothe yourself before it escalates. We know that arguing with a partner is never a good feeling. Most of the time, you need some space to clear your head before you come back, discuss what happened, and make up.
Here are three self-care ideas to use when you fight with your partner.
1. Take a Walk
Did you know that it’s physically possible to walk away from your stress? Going for a walk after a fight with your partner does more than providing physical separation. It gives you time to clear your head. Being outside can help improve mood, ease anxiety, and give you a boost of endorphins, which are known as the “happy hormone.”
It’s scientifically proven that fresh air helps us feel better. When you come back from your walk, you’ll be calmer, happier, and in a better mental space to talk. Plus, you’ll have gotten some exercise in.
2. Use Positive Affirmations
Positive affirmations are a GR8 way to banish negative thoughts. In the moments immediately after a fight, you may be thinking, “My partner doesn’t love me,” or “This fight is the worst thing that could happen right now.” Most likely, neither of these things are true. When we let our thoughts run away with themselves, it leads to a downward spiral of anxiety, anger, and sadness.
Instead, contradict those negative thoughts with phrases such as “I am loved, and this is just a bump in the road,” or “I am grateful for our relationship.”
3. Have Some “You” Time
Spend a few hours doing something you love by yourself. Get lost in one of the best books of 2020, listen to one of the best self-care podcasts, participate in a quick mini-meditation session, try out the little-known but much-loved practice of rage yoga, or work out without having to go to the gym. No matter where your happy place is, take some time for yourself to boost your mood after a fight with your partner.
Keep Your GR8 Relationship Going
No relationship is perfect, and that’s okay. The key to helping your relationship grow, and overcoming obstacles, is healthy communication and dedication. If you’re looking for ideas on how to fuel your relationship with love, check out the GR8NESS e-book A GR8 Romance Guide. It’s free to download, packed with interactive quizzes, date ideas, and more.