If you’re divorced or separated from your child’s father or mother, you may be wondering whether it’s possible to successfully co-parent your children as mature adults. Especially after hearing about celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, who have remained friends after divorcing and who often vacation together with their new partners and their children. Here are some co-parenting tips that will help you successfully co-parent your kids like a celebrity.
Make Sure that Your Relationship with Your Ex is Civil
If you can find it in your heart to forgive your ex-partner, it’s well worth doing so, for the sake of your children, as it’s not healthy for children to hear their parents talk badly about each other. Better yet, if you’re able to remain friends with your ex, your children should find it easier to deal with having separated parents.
Especially if you’re able to make memories together as a blended family and to celebrate Christmas and your children’s birthdays together. Who knows, you may even decide to go on vacation with your ex and your children like Gwyneth and Chris and Scott Disick and Kourtney Kardashian, in order to create lasting memories for your kids.
Agree on a Set of Rules for Your Children
If you’re able to agree on rules for your children, you’ll find it far easier to co-parent, then if your children are expected to follow one set of rules at your house and another set of rules at your ex’s house. As an added benefit, if you’re able to display a united front with your ex, your children will be far more likely to behave appropriately at your house and your ex’s house.
Make Sure That Your Kids Get to Spend Quality Time with Your Ex
One key to co-parenting successfully is to encourage your children to spend time with your ex. As an example, you may want to opt to look after your kids for one week, before sending your kids to your ex’s house for a week. So that your kids spend 2 weeks a month at each of your houses. One of the keys to co-parenting kids is to discuss your kids’ schedule with your ex, to come up with a plan that works for both of you.
Be Open to Helping Out Your Ex
If there are times where your ex is unable to take care of your kids due to their job or health, be a supportive co-parent by graciously stepping in to take care of your kids. As there’s no need to get angry if your ex has a genuine reason for asking for your help.
Remain in Contact with Your Ex’s Parents
As there’s a high likelihood that your kids will spend time with your ex’s parents, it’s also a smart idea to remain in a friendly relationship with your ex’s parents.
Yes, it’s definitely a realistic goal to co-parent your kids with your ex, just like your favorite celebrities. As long as you’re willing to put your kids first and to have open communication with your ex.