Everyone adjusts the way they act in certain situations. You probably speak to your boss differently than you speak to your best friend, for example. These changes are entirely normal. What’s appropriate in one setting may not be applicable in another, and recognizing that is a sign of maturity and emotional intelligence.
But some people change personalities entirely, even among friends. They may lose their sense of self-awareness, and subconsciously morph their actions so those around them will accept them. Often, they take on the traits and characteristics of the individuals they’re with without notice. Do you change personalities depending on the people you’re around? Take the quiz below and then keep reading to find out how to take back your personality.
Understanding Your True Self
Your true self is who you are when you’re alone. What you think, feel, and believe. Your deepest passions. If you find yourself acting against these principles when you’re around others, you may be changing personalities to match others. Do you love reading, but find yourself agreeing with others who say they hate it when you’re with them?
Maybe when you’re in one situation you stand up for others and defend them when they’re being oppressed or made fun of. Then, when you’re around another group, you find yourself participating in the very same actions or behaviors you’re against. Behaviors like this could mean that you change personalities depending on the group you’re with. While you’re empathetic and kind, you switch to being aggressive and antagonistic to match those around you.
Find Out Who You Are
The need to change personalities in different situations may indicate that you struggle with poor self-image. This quick quiz can help you decipher if you have a positive self-image. You may also have trouble figuring out who you are. We all struggle with identity issues from time to time. Find out who you are deep down inside.
Changing Your Behavior
If you notice that you’re changing personalities around different people, take active steps to get back to who you are. Learn how to set self-development goals and work on them. Change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s slow and steady that wins the race, and changing behaviors that you’re deeply accustomed to is a difficult journey. But it’s so worth it.