People have all kinds of ideas about sex. They have their doubts, insecurities, preferences, and opinions. Cinema, media, and perception of our environments are what help to set the framework of what we believe sex should or should not be. With so many opinions, both vocal and silent, and glorification of certain aspects of sex— it can be confusing to determine what’s healthy and average in the realm of sexual wellness.
You’re not alone if you’ve ever wondered how your experience compares with what is considered to be normal or healthy.
Besides promoting the release of oxytocin, which is what makes it physically pleasurable, enjoying daily sex can be healthy. Some health benefits of having sex, such as bladder control for women, gaining a libido boost, lowering blood pressure, stress relief, exercise, and reducing the risk of a heart attack.
Looking for the downside? Wondering if there is one? Here’s what the research says.
Age Plays A Role but Doesn’t Direct the Show
It seems that there are several corners of the jury on this one. Some research suggests that age could be somewhat of a determinant, though it truly depends on the individual and the dynamic of those involved. Sexual tendencies can vary and tend to evolve as life progresses.
The numbers estimate averages based on age groups, but conclusive research suggests that while there are averages, there are plenty of exceptions to them.
So, What’s Healthy?
Official resources for sexual safety maintain that as sex varies for each person, it only becomes an issue if it is unsafe, or addictive. Addictive meaning that it is getting in the way of everyday life and responsibilities.
Knowing the Risks
If you’re unsure about whether or not sexual frequency in a relationship is problematic, know what signs to look for that indicate it might be too much.
If It’s Compulsive
Meaning, when you and your partner are using sex to cope with outside frustrations. It does not have another purpose over time. It may be out of compulsive desire. Similarly, if you use to avoid confrontation between you and your partner, it may be a possible toxic way to approach the challenges in the relationship. If you want to have a better idea of whether or not your connection is healthy, pop into this quiz.
If It Interferes with Everyday Life
When you find that you’re setting aside priorities or letting things go to participate in sex, it may be worth reexamining.
If It’s Not Safe
Aside from using protection against STD’s, making sure you’re disease-free and using birth control, sex can be unhealthy if it’s resulting in bodily harm. Signs of harmful sexual frequency are when pain and irritation occur in the genitals.
Having a substantial amount of sex can leave women more susceptible to infection. It can throw off the pH level of the vagina lowering the defensive bacteria that protect it. If you want to be more explicit about where your sex practices stand, check out this quiz.
The best way to manage whether or not your sex life is healthy is by establishing and maintaining a strong and clear communicative pattern with your partner.
Talk about what parts of sex are fulfilling to each of you, how you feel about frequency and intimacy, and what practices you engage in for safety.
Make sure to keep a constant flow and open-mindedness in your communication with your partner. Establish a safe place where you can both vocalize what is important to you and how you feel as things progress and evolve.