We live in a world of Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, Hinge, and digital break-ups. People “meet” online, exchange a flurry of virtual messages, and eventually, maybe, arrange a time and place to meet up. But what happens after that? One round of drinks, perhaps a casual hookup, and they never speak again. Or, maybe they keep hanging out and suddenly find themselves in a relationship.
Is this the new form of dating? Is it even considered dating at all, or is “dating” now outdated? What do you think?
How Dating Has Changed
Before the era of smartphones and dating apps, two people met in person at a party or through mutual friends. Eventually, one would ask the other out on a date. To the movies, or out to dinner. Either they liked each other and continued dating, or they didn’t and moved on.
But now, with phones in our hands around-the-clock, we have constant access to many apps filled with many strangers all looking for romance or a casual fling. You don’t have to “meet” the person at all before you decide to hit the town. There also isn’t that extended period of nervousness where you muster up the courage to ask the other out.
Is “Dating” Still Dating?
Over the past few years, writers across the internet started calling today’s dating scene, “the hookup culture.” But is this simply the new form of dating? To some, it’s not dating at all. To others, it’s all they’ve ever known.
The term dating, though, may be outdated. Words you now hear when referring to the early stages of a relationship include “talking,” “together,” and “exclusive.” You don’t often hear the term dating anymore, and many individuals find themselves wondering how to know when it’s time to define the relationship.
The Use of Language
As time goes by, the trend in words changes. What used to be “rad” is now “chill,” and what used to be “bummer” is now “big oof.” The word dating is following the same path, yet has the same meaning.
“Dating” is now “talking” or “hanging out.” It can still result in a meaningful relationship, and that’s what matters.