Sometimes men will have specific reproductive and sexual health questions that they feel too embarrassed to discuss openly with friends or with a partner. Still, they are curious about the answers also.
Now, while men should never hesitate to speak with a doctor about an especially severe concern with medical implications. Sometimes it is one of those uncomfortable questions that are being asked more out of curiosity or concern than an actual problem. Some of the most common of those awkward questions will be asked and answered honestly now.
Am I Big Enough?
From merely watching any form of mass media, a common talking-point is the idea that women want their men to have not just a large penis but a huge one. Society often makes jokes about men driving fancy cars because they, “must have a small penis,” and oftentimes men will try and brag about how large their member is regardless of if they are telling the truth or not. One thing that has not helped with his perception of “bigger is better” is how pornography has become even more accessible thanks to the internet with its images of very well-endowed men having sex with women who lust after their large genitals.
Here’s a funny fact, however, the average penis size is about 3.5 inches when flaccid (not aroused) and 5 inches when erect. Doctors will talk about how often they will have male patients express concern with the size of their penis, only to be reassured that even if they are below the average, over 85% of women generally are perfectly happy with a partner’s penis-size. Many women (and men who have sex with men) get more excited from the aspects of sex that are non-penetrative (oral sex, kissing, etc.) than they do the actual act of penetrative sex with the penis itself.
Put. Men think having a big penis is essential even if there’s no medical proof it matters because we as a society have emphasized it for purely social reasons–there is little physical importance to having a gigantic penis or having a relatively smaller one. A man who makes sure to talk with his partner in the bedroom about what she or he likes and does those things is sure to have a much more satisfied partner than someone who asks no questions and thinks having a large penis is the be-all-end-all in the bedroom.
Why Am I Struggling to Get an Erection?
There are many reasons a man can have trouble getting and keeping an erection. It can be anything from pure nervousness to low testosterone, (as men age) or a side-effect of certain medications such as several anti-depressants which can reduce sex-drive
Sometimes, despite how the media portrays men as always being “horny,” some men maybe are not in the mood for sex, and their body refusing to get an erection reflects this. Having a difficult time getting or maintaining an erection every once-in-awhile is perfectly normal for a variety of reasons and nothing to panic over. However, if it is a consistent issue or any erections are painful or otherwise causing a lot of discomfort, this is when seeing a doctor is highly recommended.
I Sometimes Dream about Men – What Does It Mean?
Dreams are exciting things, they can be full of thoughts about our everyday life, surreal mixtures of images, and sometimes they can be very sexual. One topic that people often will post about online but not talk about with friends or partners has dreams about engaging in sex with a gender they usually are not at all attracted to (e.g., straight men dreaming about sex with men or gay men dreaming about sex with women).
Dreams are highly symbolic, and our dreams are all about processing the things we have seen or felt. There’s no need to think a dream where you are having sex with someone you usually wouldn’t be attracted to means anything more than a dream where you turn into a shark and cross the ocean.