Imagine your highest self, the one you wish for in moments where the urge to expand and grow taps on your window, and you feel the dreaded I would, if only I had’s, and the I will get there when’s come on. These are negative thoughts that we have had for so long, we become convinced they are apart of our narrative.
You know the story, and you know it better than anyone else. In fact, you’re likely the only one who really knows the story you believe others are so aware of because it exists uniquely in your mind. Others are not aware of the story we tell ourselves unless we show them, and most times, it’s our own perception that they mirror back to us.
Remember to Forget These
Here are some common negative thoughts we all have from time to time, and what you can replace them with to elevate yourself a bit higher.
I’m just not that kind of person.
Standing up for the person you are, and the morals you have is one thing, and a commendable thing at that. This isn’t in reference to that, but instead about the stories that we tell ourselves about what we “are” and “aren’t” that can be limiting.
Sometimes we compose these stories ourselves based on fear, and sometimes these stories were composed by others who insisted they were true for us. This is a trap and can leave us squirming to find comfort in old shells that we’ve already outgrown.
Replace With: I’m whatever kind of person I choose to be.
I’m stressed about money.
Money is tied to a lot of negative connotations that make it a bitter subject that is resented by many, and it’s understandable. The determining factor in making your relationship with money a positive one might surprise you.
It’s not having a high income, or inheritance, or investments or any monetary strength at all. It is all about mindset, which is at your disposal and completely free. Jen Sincero, author of You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth writes: “Money is a blank slate that gets its value from the energy and meaning we give it.”
Replace With: Money is a tool, and I seek to have a healthy mental image of how it contributes to my life so that I can use it to grow.
I don’t know how.
Oh, how we over-complicate the “how.” Think of all the things you could do if only you knew how. Think of all the chances you might have taken if only you knew “how” they would turn out. The confusion here is that “how” is so often regarded as a secret “if.”
We assume that if we know the how the if is solidified. Nothing in life is solid, even when the how appears in hand. Your power resides in surrendering to the unknown, and trusting that you will in time know the how for everything you’re meant for, and everything meant for you.
Replace With: I don’t know how, but I know I’ll find out what I need.