They were so much fun when you first met, right? You loved their adventurous spirit and carefree attitude. You could imagine them dog sitting in France on a whim. They could make everything seem exciting, fun, and feasible. You thought it was cute when they refused to adult or didn’t seem to know how to.
But after time passed, you may have changed and grown. They might not have. They don’t understand why you take your job seriously and why you can’t just fly away on a moment’s notice. When someone is consciously or unconsciously refusing to grow up and take responsibility for their life, you may be dating someone with Peter Pan Syndrome.
What to Do If You Are Dating a Peter Pan
If you think you may be dating Peter Pan, this quiz will help you find out. Give these questions a lot of thought and answer as truthfully as you can. If you can’t, that’s fine. Or you don’t want to answer them, that’s also okay. If you are terrified of what the final answer will be, it’s time to take an honest look at the situation.
People with this syndrome often don’t think they have a problem. Everyone has things they don’t want to do, and times they don’t feel like adulting. This is not the same as Peter Pan syndrome.
Peter Pan syndrome is not a clinical diagnosis and can apply to a wide range of individuals. If it affects people who don’t want to or feel unable to grow up, they don’t want or don’t know how to stop being children.
A Word from GR8NESS
The thing about partners with Peter Pan syndrome is, they can be a lot of fun. But they can also be a lot of work. Sometimes they can change, and sometimes they can’t. This quiz is meant to help you think critically about the dynamics of your relationship. If you are happy with it, then great. If you feel dissatisfied, the action you take is up to you.