While it is important to feel comfortable opening up to your partner, you may wonder if you have to tell them everything. We all have things that have happened in the past, or feelings we’re not proud of, that we’d rather not share. Honest, open communication is key to a good relationship, except when it isn’t.
Let us know what you think about honesty in a relationship, then keep reading to learn more.
When You Have a Little Crush on Someone Else
In general, honesty is the best policy. But you don’t have to use that policy for every stray thought that crosses your mind. Got a crush on a coworker? You’re only human. You’ll probably think someone other than your partner is attractive occasionally. Keep it to yourself is my advice. Revealing this information will likely hurt their feelings and not benefit anyone.
When They Have a Quirk That Bothers You
In the first flush of a relationship, your partner has no flaws. Sadly, that wears off, and you start noticing little quirks that may be unappealing to you. Maybe they shed hair like a crazy, snore, or never throw away empty boxes.
A behavior change request is one thing and can lead to better communication about important issues. But keep in mind that there are probably things you do that irritate them, too, so I keep mum about minor quirks.
When They Have a “Flaw” That Can’t Be Changed
A big part of being in a relationship is accepting your partner as they are. If your partner has a “flaw,” and I use this word very loosely, you may not be able to change it. There’s no point in bringing it up; they probably know about it already. If they want to work on it, be supportive. Otherwise, let it go.
Sometimes, when we are in a relationship, we feel like we should share everything with our partner. I get it, I’ve felt that way too. However, this may not always be the best thing to do. Consider whether what you are saying will hurt your partner and why you are sharing it.