Let me start with it. I’m here for you, no matter what. The fact that you’re reading this article means you or a friend’s relationship may be in troubled waters. I feel you, I’ve been there too, and it always feels lonely. After days, weeks, and months thinking about it over and over again, you’re finally posing yourself with the dreaded relationship question: do we need to see a couple’s counselor?
No one wants ever to ask themselves that question. Let alone try to find the courage to ask a partner. And, don’t get me started on reaching out for advice within your inner circle. Telling your friends about your Friday night thing is one thing, but bringing in therapy is another game.
The truth is, there’s no shame in seeking couple’s counseling. Even healthy relationships, those that seem Instagram-perfect, can benefit from therapy. We must lift the stigma on therapy altogether. Regardless of how you got here, you’ve already made progress by just clicking on this article.
The Glaring Signs Scaring You
Your mind keeps going at a million miles per hour. Anxiety has become your best friend; that knot in your throat keeps getting tighter. All the physical symptoms that the glaring signs of your relationship’s issues are scaring the heck at of you.
You don’t have to read about them to know which ones they are:
- You’re not talking
- You’re always fighting
- You’re afraid of bringing up an argument
- You’re keeping secrets from each other
- You’re not having sex
- You’re fighting over the same things
The Not-So-Obvious Signs You Should Think About
While arguing over the same issues over and over again is an easy to spot sign, sometimes your relationship issues are more deeply rooted. Sometimes there are signs you’re not aware of damaging your environment. On rare occasions, you pick up on these signs, but you don’t link them to your issues and often forget about them.
In this case, you do have to read about them to identify which ones they are:
- You pretend everything is fine (when it isn’t)
- You keep considering making significant life changes
- You have different views about money
- You’ve labeled your relationship as toxic before
- You fantasize about having an affair
- You see your partner as an antagonist
Are Things That Bad?
Hopefully, they’re not. We usually agonize over things that scare us or that we can’t control – relationship issues being one of those things. If you agreed with all of the glaring signs, and you felt profoundly connected to the not-so-obvious ones, don’t search for a counselor just yet.
Here’s a GR8 quiz that helps provide you with a bit of clarity. As always, we’re not here to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. Our results are not a death sentence, and you should still talk with your partner about your current issues. If you believe in your gut, a couple’s counselor is the answer to your prayers, then, by all means, seek one. Whatever you do, stay safe, stay open to various possibilities, and remain honest with yourself.