Our personality dictates a lot about how we behave in general, and that includes how we go about our sex life. Some people are neutral, others are responsive, and then we have those that consider themselves spontaneous. There’s nothing wrong with one or the other; what matters is that we acknowledge our sex personality and feel confident enough to discuss it with our sexual partners.
The Different Sex Personalities
Everyone has their idea of what sex personalities exist and how we describe those. However, recently there’s been a buzz about a comprehensive list of sex personalities, based on research by psychotherapist Vanessa Marin.
Understanding your sexual personality is paramount to improve your sexual wellness and create a stronger connection with your partners.
Finding your Sexual Personality
Truth be told, when it comes to sex, we might have a mild case of multiple-personality disorder. With so many factors that affect our sexual desire, it’s challenging to fit into one category. So, here’s how to find your sexual personality:
- Read through the following descriptions.
- Add an asterisk to those that resonate the most with you.
- Write the top 3 ones down and add the reasons why you feel that’s your personality.
Ready? Let’s go.
You see sex as a way to relieve stress. The mental release you experience after orgasm makes it all worth it. Sometimes, you might even use sex as a way to fall asleep faster or get a better night’s sleep. Keep an eye on your views towards sex as it might see sex as a tool rather than an emotional experience.
You’re all about adventurous. For you, sex is about having fun and enjoying the moment. You’re always ready to try something new and learn new ways to practice it. Because you don’t take it too seriously, you can easily laugh about it when things don’t go as expected.
The Trader & Giver
You’re a generous lover. For you, sex is a fair-trade exchange, you expect to meet your partners’ expectations, but you also hope them to meet yours. When you encounter a partner that’s not willing to go as all-in as you are, this might be a turn-off. Sometimes your high expectations can be exhausting to yourself and your partner. Do your best to relax.
When it comes to sex, feeling safe is your number one focus. Most likely, you’ve dealt with sexual trauma in your past, and having a solid foundation is a must for you. You’re sure to set healthy boundaries with your partners, as well as keep an open line of communication when it comes to sex.
The Passion-Seeker & Romantic
In your mind, sex must be intense, all-consuming, overly passionate, almost like the perfect romantic movie. You’re highly in tune during your sexual encounters, and you let yourself go to enjoy the moment. However, always expecting this grand sexual encounter can often leave you disappointed. Keep an eye on this.
For you, sex is a must-have, must-do, must-make-time-for type of thing. No matter how crazy life gets, sex is a top priority for you. You place a high value on your sex life, and you work towards making sex a constant in your life. You might even develop some routine to make sure sex is part of your daily life.
In your eyes, sex is meant to be a transcendent experience. Beyond a physical experience, you look at sex almost as a religious experience. If you grew up with rigid religious rules, opening up about your sexuality might be a challenge. Your connection with religion can pose challenges that restrict your sex life.
You’re everything but vanilla when it comes to sex. You’re willing to try it all, and taboo sexual fantasies don’t scare you. When it comes to sex, you feel comfortable talking about it with everyone around you. You let exploration and adventure take you wherever it goes. Make sure you know your limits and boundaries to avoid engaging in something you don’t feel comfortable with.
A Note from GR8NESS
Just like knowing your personality is essential, your sexual personality is about finding that intimate connection with yourself and your partners. Feel free to explore your personalities with your sex partners and let them know that you’d like to learn more about them. Finding a partner that is also sexually-compatible with you is as important as finding one that’s emotionally-compatible.