From the images we see in the media, you’d think only youngsters, say twenty-somethings or thirty max, are having sex. Nothing could be further from reality. Sex after 50 is a subject shrouded by myths and misconceptions.
Many people think that the drive to have sex after 50 recedes and eventually disappears. Like many misconceptions, there is a grain of truth in this – libido does decline with age. But if you put the clichés around that aside, you’ll find that sex when you are older may be the best sex of your life. Here are a few reasons why.
1. Older Lovers Are on the Same Page Erotically
Young love is hot and juicy, to be sure, but many young men are snoring before their partner’s motor has even begun humming. Also, young women tend to be less focused on the genitals and more into playful, mutually pleasurable activities. By this age, you’ve learned that men and women should talk about their sexual needs.
Once a man reaches 50, he may need more time to become aroused, which puts him in sync with his partner. At this age, men generally warm up to the whole-body experience women typically enjoy. Couples who appreciate this slower erotic sensibility enjoy a richer, more fulfilling sex life usually well after 50.
2. The Kids Are Out of the House
Many couples enjoy letting go during sex. Many enjoy being able to get loud. Couples who have young kids, teens, or young adult children who are still at home may worry about unexpected interruptions. Plus, they’re often just too busy to get busy. They may feel self-conscious about playing as enthusiastically as they would like. Once the nest is empty, this issue is gone. They can play in any room in the house, at any volume they want.
3. You Can Find New Paths to Orgasm
Sure, there may be physical limitations as you age, but that just means you have to get creative. Bad back? No worries, there are many sex positions to reduce back pain. It’s also a time when you can experiment. You may develop a new repertoire of foreplay activities – more kissing, stroking, and cuddling. These things can also build more intimacy, which in turn can make sex better.
As you are both more comfortable with each other sexually, no limitations are making you hold back. Experiment with your partner and create a whole new menu of sexual activities that arouse you and excite you. Remember that sex doesn’t equal intercourse, get creative!
4. Older Men Can Have Orgasms without Erections
This may be hard to believe, but men can have orgasms without an erection. It surprises many men, too. With vigorous, erotic stimulation, men with semi-firm or flaccid penises can enjoy satisfying orgasms. Cuddling, caressing, kissing, massage, oral stimulation, and sex toys can help a man experience orgasm without an erection.
I’m not going to lie; the changes in sex after 50 can be an adjustment. But if you successfully make the mental transition, you may find that sex after 50 is the best sex of your life.